The Band-Aid Problem: Why Facing Pain Helps Us Heal From Alcohol
Alcohol hides emotional wounds but also makes them worse. Removing it lets us face the real issues and start true recovery.
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Understanding Alcohol
The basics they never taught us. Everything starts here: what alcohol really is, and why it matters more than we think.
15 posts
Revealing the Trap
How we get caught, and why we stay stuck. It’s not just the drinking. It’s what’s happening around it, underneath it, and because of it.
25 posts
Mental Mechanics
The inner workings of our drinking habit. Mental patterns that guide how we think, feel, and act around alcohol.
15 posts
Physical Mechanics
The body’s hidden conversation with alcohol. Connecting brain, body, and how we feel when we drink or don’t.
12 posts
The High-Performer
Professionals and business owners holding it together, drinking or quitting. Feeling the pressure and emotional weight of performing.
19 posts
Change in Action
Strategies, mindsets, and tested truths to support real change. Not theory, just what works when you're actually doing it.
23 posts
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Stress Management for Sober High Performers
We often think a drink takes the edge off, but it quietly feeds our stress. Real relief comes from habits that strengthen us instead of numbing us.
Breath Holding and Stomach Tension: Fuel for Cravings
Holding your breath and tensing your stomach might seem harmless, but these silent habits can build stress and trigger cravings.
The Belief Bucket Recap: 10 Myths About Alcohol, Debunked
Our beliefs about alcohol shape every choice we make. This series unpacks 10 myths that keep us stuck and shows how to replace them with the truth.
Myth #10: The Buzz Feels Amazing (The Brain Chemistry Trick)
The buzz from alcohol isn’t genuine happiness. It’s a chemical trick that fades fast and leaves you chasing more. Real joy comes back when you stop drinking.
Myth #9: Alcohol Solves Boredom (The Boredom Trap)
Drinking for boredom shrinks life instead of expanding it. Boredom isn’t a signal to pour a drink, it’s an invitation to do something real.
Myth #8: Moderate Drinking Is an Option (The Mirage)
Moderate drinking feels like balance, but it’s really a mirage. For those of us wired for addiction, one drink reawakens the cycle. True freedom comes when we stop chasing moderation and let it go.
Myth #7: Alcohol Helps Me Sleep (The Sleep Illusion)
Alcohol feels like a sleep aid, but it’s really sedation that robs you of deep rest. True sleep heals and restores. And it’s always better without the drink.
Myth #6: Alcohol Helps Me Socially (The Social Ally Illusion)
Alcohol feels like a social shortcut, but it only creates the illusion of connection. Real bonds don’t come from a bottle.
Myth #5: Alcohol Tastes Amazing (The Taste Illusion)
We think we love the taste of alcohol, but most of the time it’s the buzz, the ritual, or the memory. Flavor alone was never the real reason.
Myth #4: The Rosy Effect – Remembering Only the Good Times
We often remember the “good times” with alcohol and forget the pain. That’s the Rosy Effect. Honest memories show it was never the source of joy.
Myth #3: Alcohol Is My Reward (The Reward Illusion)
Alcohol feels like a reward, but it isn’t. It tricks the brain with quick highs and long lows. Real rewards make life better, not worse.